And Breathe…

Relaxation is important, perspective is important and comfort is important.

Roker beach is that relaxing and comforting place for me, I can be there for five seconds and already have a brand new perspective on anything weighing on my mind.

When I first moved to Sunderland in 2014, I had no idea I was so close to the seaside. The accommodation I lived in during my first year had a river view, I’ve always felt the need to be close to the water and that was the only thing that made me feel comfortable in the first few weeks of independent living. It seems like another lifetime.

Roker for me is one of those fairytale, rom-com movie places. The place the protagonist of the story would go off into the sunset to live happily ever after.

There’s something about the sea air that just brings me clarity. My favourite place to go on holiday is Filey Brigg, I’ve been camping there a few times and I’ve carried purely happy memories of that place with me since I was a child. The first holiday I took Stephen on was to Filey, we stayed in a tent for three nights together and we spent every minute of sunlight on the sand or in the sea. It cost less than £50 for the whole thing, train tickets, camp site, food/drink, all of it.

Long sleeve t-shirt: Slaves merch

Tartan trousers: H&M

Boots: Dr Marten x Lazy Oaf Jungle Boots

Hoodie: Drop Dead

Coat: ASOS


Footnote: Oh and yes, I did finally find the tartan trousers of dreams (that I got for my birthday and had to return, cry cry) in the size up by some sorta miracleee! Also, H&M, sort your shit out. I don’t equate numbers and sizes to self worth or anything silly but …

29-31″ waist is H&M size 14. In Topshop, 32″ is a size 14. It’s only one size up but it’s still a size up. Girls less confident than myself could be destroyed by something like this. Also, having to return stuff and then the right size being out of stock is a right fucker.

What do you think of H&M, any bad experiences with sizing?

And where are your happy places?


  • Massively agree about relaxation being important, especially in this busy world we are currently living in. Wish I could get down to the seaside more often, there’s nothing more soothing than the sound of the sea. You look great in this outfit, the trousers really suit you. I work for them and even I agree about the sizing, I’m normally a size 12 in trousers but there I am 16 even once 18, it’s crazy.

    • The seaside is honestly my favourite place in the world!
      H&M can just fuck off tbh, if they stocked any sizes bigger than a 14 in store I’d definitely be walking around wearing 16s!

  • I’m completely with you on this one, being by the sea is SO calming! Something about that ocean air… Also I always find I have to go a size up in H&M, same with Primark too. I don’t see the point in sizing if it’s going to be so inconsistent, it can be so damaging to people’s confidence!xxx

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